“The beginning is the most important part of the work.”
you think you can you’re right, if you think you can’t you’re right”
Henry Ford Look around you. What do you see? Look at your surroundings, the
atmosphere, and the people around you. Think of your current life conditions:
work, health, friends, people surrounding you. What do they look like? Are you
happy with what you see? Now look inside of you. How do you feel RIGHT
NOW in this moment? Are you satisfied with your life? Are you longing for
more? Do you believe that you can be happy and successful? What is missing
from your life that you need to call your life happy and/or successful? Why do
some people seem to have everything and other people nothing? Most people
have no idea how they get what they get. Some of us just blame it on fate and
chance. I’m sorry that I have to be the one to tell you: “Sorry friend! You have
created the life you have! Everything that happens to you is created by YOU -
either consciously by design or unconsciously by default; it’s not a result of fate
or circumstances.
I decided to write this book because I’m seeing so many people that are
dreaming of improving their life, being happier, becoming wealthier yet
according to them, the only way that could happen would be due to some kind of
miracle: winning the lottery, marrying rich, or some other stroke of luck. They
are looking for outside influences to happen by chance and change everything.
They think life happens to them. Most of them have no idea that they can be in
total control of their life each and every moment and every day of their lives. So
they continue daydreaming, doing those things that they’ve always done, and
waiting for some miraculous outcome. Sometimes they actually don’t even know
what they want! The following is a conversation I actually had: Q:”What would
you do if you had enough time and money?”
A:”Man! That would be great! I would be happy!”
Q:”And what would ‘being happy’ look like to you?”
A:”I would do everything I want to do!”
Q:”And what is ‘everything you want to do’?”
A:”Oh! Now you got me. I don’t even know!”
The true tragedy is that if they would only stop for one moment, ask themselves
what they really want in life, write down their goals and start working towards।
them, they could actually make those miracles happen. I see it day in and day out
with my coaching clients: people that come to me because they want to change
something in their lives, and instead of sitting around and waiting and dreaming
of a better life, they actually take matters in their own hands and start taking
action! And the results are fabulous!
Remember: You are leading the life that you have chosen! How? This is because
we create our life every moment through our thoughts, beliefs, and expectations
and our mind is so powerful that it will give us what we ask for. The good thing
is that you can train your mind to give you only the things you want, and not the
things that you don’t want! And it gets even better: you can learn how to deal
with things that you can’t control in a more efficient and less painful manner.
I’ve been studying the principles of success and how to achieve happiness for
nearly 25 years now. What I always subconsciously knew became a structured
method using the tools and exercises of coaching. More than ever, I’m convinced
that success can be planned and created. For the skeptics who think that all this
is metaphysical nonsense, just look at the enormous progress science has made
and how it can now prove many things which only 25 years ago could only be
believed without being proven. The most important message in this little book is:
Your happiness depends of YOU, and nobody else! In this book, I want to
introduce you to some proven tips, tricks and exercises that can improve your
life beyond your imagination if you practice them constantly and persistently.
More good news: You don’t need to win the lottery to be happy! You can start by
doing little things in your life differently in a constant and consistent manner,
and over time results will show. This is how my coaching clients achieve
incredible results: creating new habits and working towards their goals
consistently, and doing things that bring them closer to their goals every single
day. It is possible! You can do it! You deserve it!
Simply reading the book won’t help you a lot, though. You have to take
ACTION! That’s the most important part – (and it is also the part that I struggled
with the most for many, many years). You have to start doing and practicing
the exercises and introducing new habits into your life. If you are very
curious - read the whole book once with a pen or pencil and a notebook in hand
to make notes if you like. Then read the book a second time – this is when the
rubber meets the road – and now start doing some of the exercises and
introducing new habits into your life. If you do the exercises in this book
regularly and consistently, your life will change for the better! Experts in the
field of success teachings, coaching and Neuro-linguistic Programming agree। that it takes 21 to 30 days to implement a new habit. 30 days that can make a
difference in your life. 30 days of working consistently on yourself and your
habits can turn it all around – or at least put you in a better position. At least try
it out! Stay with some of the exercises for at least 30 days. Do the ones that
come easy to you. If it doesn’t work out for you, write me an email with your
complaint to
Rewrite your story
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”
The first time I came in contact with this idea was nearly 25 years ago while
reading Jane Robert’s book “Seth speaks”. Seth says you are the writer,
director and main actor of your story. So if you don’t like how the story is
playing out…change it! At that time I thought it’s kind of a comforting idea,
gave it a try, and have lived by it ever since - in good times and bad times. It
doesn’t matter what happened in your past. Your future is a clean sheet!
You can reinvent yourself! Every day brings with it the opportunity to start a
new life! You get to choose your identity at each and every moment! So who are
you going to be? It’s up to you to decide who you are going to be from this day
on. What are you going to do?
If you DO some of the things suggested in this book, create new habits, and do
just some of the many exercises that you will find here, things will start to shift.
It’s not going to be easy and you will need discipline, patience, and
persistence. But the results will come.
In 2008, when FC Barcelona’s coach Josep “Pep” Guardiola took charge of the
team that was in a desolate state, he told the 73000 people in attendance in the
stadium and the millions of viewers on Catalonian television, in his inauguration
speech: “We can’t promise you titles, what we can promise you is effort and that
we will persist, persist, persist until the end. Fasten your seatbelts - we are going
to have fun”. This speech started the most successful period in the 115 years
history of the club and few people think it can ever be repeated. The team went
on to win 3 national championships, 2 national cups, 3 Spanish Supercups, 2
European Supercups, 2 Champions Leagues, and 2 World Club Championships
in their 4 years of domination of World football. (If you don’t follow soccer:
This is like a mediocre NFL team winning 4 Superbowls in a row).
They rewrote their story.
Now it’s your turn. Make some effort and persist, persist, persist! Don’t give up!
Fasten your seatbelts and have some fun!
Self-Discipline and Commitment
“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action
and discipline that enabled us to follow through.”
Zig Ziglar
“If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.”
Napoleon Hil
This is one of the first chapters, because it will be the foundation of your future
success! Your way to success and happiness is deeply connected to your
willpower and commitment. These character traits will decide whether you do
what you said you would do and go through with it. These will keep you going
towards your goals even when everything seems to go against you. Self-
discipline is doing the things you need to do, even if you are not in the mood
for it. If you train to be self-disciplined and have the will to succeed, you can do
great things in your life. But even if you don’t have the slightest bit of self-
discipline within you right now - don’t worry. You can start training your self-
discipline and willpower from this moment on! Self-discipline is like a muscle.
The more you train it, the better you get. If your self-discipline is weak right
now, start training it by setting yourself small, reachable goals. Write down the
success you have and keep in mind that you don't have limits - only the ones you
set for yourself.
Visualize the benefits you will have at the end of the road: For example if you
want to go running at 6 a.m. in the morning and you just don't seem to make it
out of bed - imagine how good you will feel when you are at the fitness level
that you want to be at and how great you will look. Then jump out of bed, put on
your running clothes, and go! Remember: This book will only work if you have
the will and the discipline to make it work!
What is your word worth? Take your commitments seriously! Because not
keeping your commitments has a terrible consequence: you lose energy, you lose
clarity, you get confused along the way to your goals, and even worse you lose
self-confidence, and your self-esteem takes a hit! To avoid this, you have to
become aware of what is really important to you and act in line with your values.
A commitment is a choice! Only make commitments that you really want. That can mean fewer commitments and more “NOs”. If you commit - keep your
commitment whatever it takes. Give them the importance and value that they
deserve and be aware of the consequences of not keeping them.
Time to take action! Ask yourself the following questions:
In what areas are you lacking self-discipline at the moment? Be completely
honest.
What benefits will you obtain if you had more self-discipline?
What will be your first step towards reaching your goal?
Write down your plan of action in small steps. Give yourself deadlines.
How will you know you've reached your goal of having more self-discipline in।
Take full responsibility for your life!
“Peak performance begins with your taking complete responsibility for your life
and everything that happens to you.”
Brian Tracy
"Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves
responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”
Sigmund Freud
There is only one person that's responsible for your life and that is YOU! Not
your boss, not your spouse, not your parents, not your friends, not your clients,
not the economy, not the weather. YOU! The day we stop blaming others for
everything that happens in our life, everything changes! Taking responsibility for
your life is taking charge of your life and becoming the protagonist of it. Instead
of being a victim of circumstances, you obtain the power to create your own
circumstances or at least the power to decide how you are going to act in the face
of circumstances that life presents to you. It doesn’t matter what happens to you
in your life; it matters what attitude you adopt. And the attitude you adopt is
your choice!
If you blame your life situation on others, what has to happen to make your life
better? All of the others have to change! And that my friend I tell you, is not
going to happen. If you are the protagonist, YOU have the power to change the
things that you don't like in your life! You are in control of your thoughts,
actions, and feelings. You are in control of your words, the series you watch on
TV, and the people you spend your time with. If you don't like your results,
change your input - your thoughts, emotions, and expectations. Stop reacting to
others and start responding. Reaction is automatic. Responding is consciously
choosing your response.
You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing:
no one to blame - Erica Jong The victim says: Every bad thing in my life is
others’ fault, but if you are not part of the problem, then you also can’t be a
part of the solution or - in other words - if the problem is caused by the outside,
the solution is also on the outside. If you’re coming in late to work because of
“traffic”, what has to happen so that you can get to work on time? Traffic has to। disappear magically! Because as long as there is traffic - you will always be late.
Or you can act like a protagonist and leave home on time. Then it depends on
you.
So once again: even if you don’t have control over the stimuli that environment
sends you continuously, you have the liberty do choose your behavior in facing
the situation.
The person with a “victim mentality” only reacts, is always innocent, and
constantly blames others for his or her life situation, while using the past as
justification and putting their hopes on a future which will miraculously bring
solutions to problems or a change in others who are causing the troubles.
The protagonist knows that he or she is responsible, chooses adequate behavior
and holds himself accountable. He uses the past as a valuable experience from
which to learn, lives in the present where he sees constant opportunities for
change, and decides and goes after his future goals. The most important question
is: “Who will you choose to be – by your actions – when life presents you with
these circumstances?”
Gandhi said it very nicely: “They can’t take away our self-respect if we don’t
give it to them. Ask yourself the following questions: Who are you blaming for your life
situation right now? (Your partner? Your boss? Your parents? Your friends?)
What would happen if you stopped blaming the others for what happens to you
in your life?
What would happen if you would stop being a victim of the circumstances?
Is it comfortable for you being the victim?
What benefits does it have for you to be a victim?
What would happen if you stopped suffering in your life and took the decision to
change it?
What would you change?
Where could you start?
How would you start?
Action Step:
Write down five things that you can do in the coming week to start changing the
course and start taking charge of your life.
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